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    Home » Everything Amish » Plain Culture

    Father's Day Reflections

    Published: Jun 22, 2015 · Updated: Jun 22, 2015 by Kevin Williams | 4 Comments

    By Kevin Williams

    I had not envisioned myself becoming part of the club of special people celebrating fatherhood each June.  But when Aster was born almost 21 months ago I became a part of that club.  It's been quite a ride.  I wish I had some some of sage wisdom to sprinkle onto the sands of the internet about the riddle of fatherhood, but I don't.  Perhaps I'll have more to say 5 or 10 years from now but right now I'm still learning.  I do try to be a good Dad. I'm sure everyone tries. But what is a "good Dad?"   For right now I just try to "be there" for Aster as much as I can and maybe that's the most important ingredient in all of the years ahead, I don't know. I twist my mind like a pretzel trying to think of the ways to make her life most enjoyable and comfortable as she grows and matures.  While pain is part of anyone's life and one shouldn't try to protect their kids from every shred of unpleasantness I'm trying not to make Aster pay the price for some of my bone-headed career decisions over the years.

    I also do constantly have one eye on the clock and calendar.  While the individual days can sometimes drag by weighed down by dirty diapers and afternoon naps, the larger arc of time is speeding along at a scary pace.  The mantra of  "oh, no worries, there will always be more time" seems increasingly flimsy as Aster has gone from crib to crawling to walking to the first clumsy attempts at biking.  She'll keep on progressing and moving forward and I need to keep up.

    Surrounding Aster with as much loving family as possible is another ingredient we try to deliver.  She loves all of her cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents.  Father's Day was spent with all of them.  We had brunch with my father   (that's the challenge of Father's Day, the pure logistics, as so many people are a father or have fathers...there's my father, Rachel's father, my brother who is a father, my brother-in-law, and me) at a delicious dive in Dayton called The Butter Cafe.   In this photo, Aster contemplates her next nibble.  Note the "barber coat" style bib she is wearing. IMG_0572 (1)IMG_0563 (1) Wow, I wish they made the same thing for adults!  I'd order 10 of them.  Then it was on to Wegerzyn Gardens Metropark with its beautiful gardens and play area for Aster to explore and enjoy.  
    IMG_0241 (1)Here is Aster playing in an elevated sandbox.  And lately she has discovered the fun of riding on my shoulders when we take walks, something that makes Rachel a little nervous, but she holds on tight.  Sometimes too tightly as my neck can attest to.

    IMG_0243 (1)So, maybe in a year or two or five I'll have some wisdom to dispense.  Right now I'm just trying to have fun, savor the moments, and not screw anything up too badly.

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    About Kevin Williams

    Hi, my name is Kevin Williams and I am owner of Oasis Newsfeatures and editor of The Amish Cook newspaper column.

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    1. Carol

      June 22, 2015 at 4:26 pm

      Having a houseful of children between age 26 and age 5, I have a bit of experience under the belt and it sounds to me as though you are ahead of the game when it comes to being a good father. You already doing things that some men never do or wait years to start doing. Yes time will fly by at a scary speed but you seem to be keeping up quite well from what I see in this column. Aster is a lucky little girl! Hope you had a great Father's Day!

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      • kentuckylady717

        June 22, 2015 at 5:03 pm

        I agree Kevin, you do sound like you are doing all the right things....maybe except one 🙂 still drinking pop eh? You know she will want it too.....and it is no good for any of us.....so just try to stay away from giving it to her and she will be so much better off.....and watch the sweets too, keep them at a minimum .....easier said than done, but you can do it.....just don't keep all that stuff in the house and she won't be wanting it......and neither will you 🙂

        She is really growing and changing, she is so pretty.....glad you had a great Fathers' day.

        We go to Dayton occasionally will have to check out the Butter Café, what kind of food do they serve ? Are there any Amish in Dayton ? Just curious......

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    2. Noreen

      June 22, 2015 at 4:56 pm

      Just great photos of Aster and you!!! You have a "handle" on it beautifully Kevin -do not fret!!!! We humans (that includes children) are so lucky when we have love and Aster has it by the boat loads and it shows!!!
      Happy Father's Day to you!!!!

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    3. Tom The Backroads Traveller

      June 23, 2015 at 7:13 am

      Boy, is she getting BIG! Tom The Backroads Traveller

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